Such a hard task to consider isn’t it?
Have you ever experienced it when somebody seems to push himself/herself to you to the extent that even an innocent child would tell you at his high pitch accent, “is he okay? Don’t you think he likes you?” So obvious that you just can’t get enough of the annoyance.
Have you ever been annoyed that way? How did you handle it? Or perhaps, how are you handling it?
Some people may not have the capacity to hide their feelings. One of your suitors might be like that. You might have felt like you are being stalked by someone who knows every detail in your resume, back to back. He/she even browse your friendster account everyday! It’s like if ever this person is right in front of you, you would probably pull out his eyes because of the dangerous obsession that he is actually having in you. But, would you do that? I guess not!
You might be trying to be nice to this person because you think that it is the right way to do and as a God-fearing child, you do not want to hurt anyone’s feeling. But then, when the level of annoyance rises each day, how can you get rid of getting sick of it?
Sometimes, you just pray to God every morning that you will not see this person for the whole day. However, does getting rid of that person would make it right? You see, a sickness can be cured temporarily with a tablet of a drug, but in time, the sickness will get back. What is necessary then is to get into the root and pull it out!
What I am trying to tell you is to talk to the person face to face and tell him/her the truth in the gentlest way you can. The emotions are uprooted from the heart and mind, so you need to make a way to see both through. Talk as if you are a brother or a sister. You see, God has made us all, and we all come from God. No matter what the arguments are, the truth that “we are brothers and sisters” will never be trashed. The loved ones in your house are not your only family, you belong to God’s family, and even the person you hate belongs to it.
How will you do the conversation? When talking to this person, bring your attention to the image of your “loved one” seated before you. Recognize that you label him/her “loved one” and think well of her. Now realize that there are some people in this world who do not like your “loved one”. Most people may even hate your “loved one”. They may have hated your “loved one” because of the color of his/her skin, gender, religion, or even the tone of voice. Some may be jealous of his/her abilities, or her possessions. For whatever reason, think that due to the imperfection of your “loved one”, some people consider him/her as an enemy.
Later on, you can bring your attention to the image of an “enemy,” or a “disagreeable person.” . He is imperfect. So are you. But no matter how imperfect he is, that person on the other side of him is a perfect father, brother, teacher, and friend. You see, he is not bad at all!
People are imperfect. You are imperfect. No one has the right to condemn anybody. Why won’t you try loving someone you hate. Consider him/her as a family. There might be a perfect reason to hate him/her but behind that disagreeable person are greater reasons to love him/her.
No perfect love has ever been available for everyone except the one given from above. We must not hate a person no matter how annoying he/she is. He is not perfect, neither you. But God loved you even if you are imperfect.
Have you ever experienced it when somebody seems to push himself/herself to you to the extent that even an innocent child would tell you at his high pitch accent, “is he okay? Don’t you think he likes you?” So obvious that you just can’t get enough of the annoyance.
Have you ever been annoyed that way? How did you handle it? Or perhaps, how are you handling it?
Some people may not have the capacity to hide their feelings. One of your suitors might be like that. You might have felt like you are being stalked by someone who knows every detail in your resume, back to back. He/she even browse your friendster account everyday! It’s like if ever this person is right in front of you, you would probably pull out his eyes because of the dangerous obsession that he is actually having in you. But, would you do that? I guess not!
You might be trying to be nice to this person because you think that it is the right way to do and as a God-fearing child, you do not want to hurt anyone’s feeling. But then, when the level of annoyance rises each day, how can you get rid of getting sick of it?
Sometimes, you just pray to God every morning that you will not see this person for the whole day. However, does getting rid of that person would make it right? You see, a sickness can be cured temporarily with a tablet of a drug, but in time, the sickness will get back. What is necessary then is to get into the root and pull it out!
What I am trying to tell you is to talk to the person face to face and tell him/her the truth in the gentlest way you can. The emotions are uprooted from the heart and mind, so you need to make a way to see both through. Talk as if you are a brother or a sister. You see, God has made us all, and we all come from God. No matter what the arguments are, the truth that “we are brothers and sisters” will never be trashed. The loved ones in your house are not your only family, you belong to God’s family, and even the person you hate belongs to it.
How will you do the conversation? When talking to this person, bring your attention to the image of your “loved one” seated before you. Recognize that you label him/her “loved one” and think well of her. Now realize that there are some people in this world who do not like your “loved one”. Most people may even hate your “loved one”. They may have hated your “loved one” because of the color of his/her skin, gender, religion, or even the tone of voice. Some may be jealous of his/her abilities, or her possessions. For whatever reason, think that due to the imperfection of your “loved one”, some people consider him/her as an enemy.
Later on, you can bring your attention to the image of an “enemy,” or a “disagreeable person.” . He is imperfect. So are you. But no matter how imperfect he is, that person on the other side of him is a perfect father, brother, teacher, and friend. You see, he is not bad at all!
People are imperfect. You are imperfect. No one has the right to condemn anybody. Why won’t you try loving someone you hate. Consider him/her as a family. There might be a perfect reason to hate him/her but behind that disagreeable person are greater reasons to love him/her.
No perfect love has ever been available for everyone except the one given from above. We must not hate a person no matter how annoying he/she is. He is not perfect, neither you. But God loved you even if you are imperfect.
(excerpts from eucreo february issue, written by lanilane ocbina)
